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Rolling right along

Childbirth is more admirable than conquest, more amazing than self-defense, and as courageous as either one.   –Gloria Steinem

“I have to get home to my daughter.” How strange those words feel on my tongue, spoken for the first time ever in my life. Today was my first excursion out of the house since her birth (not including her doctor’s appointment last week) and I thought about her constantly for the hour that I was running errands. “I have to get home to my daughter,” I told the cashier as he held me up due to a technical problem. It felt so wonderful to say those words.

Motherhood thus far…exhausting, but rewarding!

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Why am I a Ho and You’re a Player?

Well, I’ve come across just another example of the disparity in the treatment of males and females in this world. The following comes from Leora Tanenbaum’s book, Slut! Growing Up Female With a Bad Reputation. The words written in bold are terms that I have added.

Positive Expressions For a Sexually Active Man

  • stud
  • player
  • stallion
  • ladies’ man
  • the man
  • Romeo
  • Don Juan
  • Casanova
  • bounder
  • gigolo
  • lover
  • lover man/boy
  • pimp (this term is negative in my opinion, but with the present “pimp” fad I thought it would be appropriate to include it here)
  • catdaddy (I just heard this one on the Wendy Williams Experience. She referred to Lionel Ritchie as a catdaddy)

Positive Expressions For a Sexually Active Woman

  • hot
  • sexy

Negative Expressions For a Sexually Active Man

  • womanizer
  • wolf
  • dog
  • “can’t keep it in his pants”
  • philanderer

Negative Expressions For a Sexually Active Woman

  • slut
  • whore
  • tramp
  • ho
  • bitch
  • hoochie mama
  • pig
  • prostitute
  • hood rat
  • hooker
  • nympho
  • harlot
  • hussy
  • tart
  • bimbo
  • floozy
  • cunt
  • vixen
  • minx
  • loose woman
  • fallen woman
  • naughty girl/woman
  • vamp
  • wench
  • slattern
  • Jezebel
  • strumpet
  • skank
  • sleaze
  • slag
  • sexpot

Why do we feel the need to police women’s sexuality and assign degrading terms to sexually active women. God forbid a woman acts as if she enjoys sex, because then she is often looked upon with suspicion by her lover. We’re not non-sexual beings. Can we stop rewarding men for their sexual behavior while at the same time punishing women for theirs?

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